August 28, 2008

lessons never learned

I don’t want to get all maudlin and self-pitying here, but I am so sick of toxic people. You know the type: people who are charismatic and friendly and who everybody loves, but upon closer inspection, or upon an investment of trust, it soon becomes apparent to a discerning person that the toxic person is really only looking to be universally liked—he or she is not interested in or capable of being a real friend.

I met a lot of these people in college. I’m easily duped by them, I’m not sure why, and when I figure out just how deceitful they’re capable of being I end up feeling stupid and guilty for allowing myself to trust them. But what’s my alternative? Trust no one? I’m careful, but I’m no misanthrope. It just makes me so mad that there are people in the world like this, and that they get away with it. It’s a very dangerous pathology that I don’t really know how to combat and I keep falling prey to it.